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The risks in your situation are that one of you starts to fall in love with the Just another child-free day shirt but I will buy this shirt and I will love this other and it’s not reciprocated or that, longer term, one of you starts having sex with someone else and it leads to feelings of bitterness, rejection, or jealousy. I’m not going to outright tell you to stop having sex as I think that’s not realistic. (It may even be counterproductive: What is sexier than forbidden fruit?) But I think you need to both look at mitigating these dangers. Spending some time apart and trying to build distinct social lives while in Mexico might help take some intensity out of your dynamic. I would also recommend you both pick up the phone to your separate friends at home and share with them how you’re feeling about things, so that the whole thing doesn’t feel like a strange little secret between the two of you. I think you both need to make room for talking explicitly about what happens when the six months is up and you’re both back home in your daily lives, too. The return home will be a watershed moment for whether you take the sexual relationship forward or leave it behind in the sun. Uncomfortable, exposing conversations now are a necessary evil in assuring you still have a friendship for another 12 years.
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